Comments on: I am not staring at you, really http://icanhearyou.blogsome.com/2006/08/09/i-am-not-staring-at-you-really/ News about hearing loss, deafness and coping Wed, 09 Dec 2009 08:05:23 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=1.5.1-alpha by: jux a terp http://icanhearyou.blogsome.com/2006/08/09/i-am-not-staring-at-you-really/#comment-7 Thu, 10 Aug 2006 20:38:29 +0100 http://icanhearyou.blogsome.com/2006/08/09/i-am-not-staring-at-you-really/#comment-7 hmmm... now it explains CLEARLY why you always snooze in front of us. "After a day's hard work" theory NO LONGER applies to you. Hah! hmmm… now it explains CLEARLY why you always snooze in front of us. “After a day’s hard work” theory NO LONGER applies to you. Hah!

]]> by: Administrator http://icanhearyou.blogsome.com/2006/08/09/i-am-not-staring-at-you-really/#comment-6 Thu, 10 Aug 2006 00:41:54 +0100 http://icanhearyou.blogsome.com/2006/08/09/i-am-not-staring-at-you-really/#comment-6 Yes, very true, Thomas. It's indeed the way we present ourselves in terms of body language, non-verbal cues and such. Subconsciously, our body language reflects our intentions. At first, during interpreting sessions, I was rather conscious of looking at the interpreter (terp) all the time, especially if the terp is, erm, some pretty lass. But it soon worn off as I realise I was more concerned about catching and understanding her terping than anything else. (Both terping and reception of terping are hard work, requiring alot of effort and attention on the part of both sides). In fact, I became so blased about terping that I would even doze off in front of exceptionally pretty terps, if the lecture was exceptionally boring. Ok ok, I am not proud of this, heh! Yes, very true, Thomas. It’s indeed the way we present ourselves in terms of body language, non-verbal cues and such. Subconsciously, our body language reflects our intentions.

At first, during interpreting sessions, I was rather conscious of looking at the interpreter (terp) all the time, especially if the terp is, erm, some pretty lass. But it soon worn off as I realise I was more concerned about catching and understanding her terping than anything else. (Both terping and reception of terping are hard work, requiring alot of effort and attention on the part of both sides).

In fact, I became so blased about terping that I would even doze off in front of exceptionally pretty terps, if the lecture was exceptionally boring. Ok ok, I am not proud of this, heh!

]]> by: Thomas Tan http://icanhearyou.blogsome.com/2006/08/09/i-am-not-staring-at-you-really/#comment-5 Wed, 09 Aug 2006 22:30:59 +0100 http://icanhearyou.blogsome.com/2006/08/09/i-am-not-staring-at-you-really/#comment-5 Ahh, there is a fine line between staring and looking intensely, and yet another fine line between looking intensely with lust and looking intensely with interest in the conversation. Over the years, I have refined the art of using my eyes to hear what my ears couldn't to almost perfection. I can tell from the body language of the person I am having a conversation with whether the person feels that I am staring or feels encouraged by my interest to carry on the conversation. I rarely come across one who feels that I am staring. The secret lies with the intent. If one has malicious or lustful intent, it just shows up and the other party will almost always perceive it immediately unless he/she is not observant. That's why it's true to say that the eyes are the window to one's soul. On the other hand, if we are genuinely interested in the conversation and are not wondering about other things in secret, the conversation goes on as expected. I guess that's the natural law. Human beings are programmed this way, which is the reason why we always look into the eyes of a person if we want to know whether that person is telling the truth. And frankly speaking, we need to look at the entire body language, not just the eyes, in order to get the complete message and intent. In the same way, we need to watch our body language beyond our eyes when we are engaged in a conversation. Subconciously, we may be sending signals of lust, aggression, etc beyond the eyes and that's usually why the other party may cut short the conversation. So fundamentally, check our intent. Don't let it stray. And unless our body language is horribly broken, we should be able to carry on a decent conversation using our eyes to hear what we couldn't with our ears. Cheerios, Thomas Ahh, there is a fine line between staring and looking intensely, and yet another fine line between looking intensely with lust and looking intensely with interest in the conversation. Over the years, I have refined the art of using my eyes to hear what my ears couldn’t to almost perfection. I can tell from the body language of the person I am having a conversation with whether the person feels that I am staring or feels encouraged by my interest to carry on the conversation. I rarely come across one who feels that I am staring. The secret lies with the intent.

If one has malicious or lustful intent, it just shows up and the other party will almost always perceive it immediately unless he/she is not observant. That’s why it’s true to say that the eyes are the window to one’s soul. On the other hand, if we are genuinely interested in the conversation and are not wondering about other things in secret, the conversation goes on as expected.

I guess that’s the natural law. Human beings are programmed this way, which is the reason why we always look into the eyes of a person if we want to know whether that person is telling the truth. And frankly speaking, we need to look at the entire body language, not just the eyes, in order to get the complete message and intent. In the same way, we need to watch our body language beyond our eyes when we are engaged in a conversation. Subconciously, we may be sending signals of lust, aggression, etc beyond the eyes and that’s usually why the other party may cut short the conversation. So fundamentally, check our intent. Don’t let it stray. And unless our body language is horribly broken, we should be able to carry on a decent conversation using our eyes to hear what we couldn’t with our ears.

Cheerios,
Thomas

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