Men are Pigs
An interesting read, to put it mildly.
Oh, you ask - after reading the essay - what are my views? Erm, well, ah, see, I reserve comment. No girl has ever picked up sign language because of me anyway. (Alas! And.. oink!)
Read on…Why am I annoyed with hearing members of my own gender, you ask? Simple. Every time a deaf guy I know dates or marries a hearing woman, 90 percent of the time that woman signs. Even if the guy has exceptional speech and residual hearing, the woman still goes out of her way to learn sign language.
But when a deaf girl finds a hearing boyfriend, sheeesh. It’s a totally different story.
Hands up when reading this article. I saw the same cases with my own friends. My deaf gf going for speech therapy and changing HA, even learning chinese for her hearing Bf and hearing gf signing “hard” for their deaf bf….
YA!! Men are Really PIG!!.. Kekeke!
Of course I am a female Rabbit. =P
Comment by Rabbit — October 9, 2006 @ 12:52 am
Ah well, if I am hearing and I have a deaf signing girlfriend, I’m pretty sure I will learn sign for her.
Just call me gallant.
:)
Comment by Dictatorial Editor — October 9, 2006 @ 12:54 am
Well, I am hearing-impaired, and a certified male (it says so on my birthcert, IC and driving license), and I go all out to speak and listen for my former girlfriend who’s now my wife, for my children, for my parents, in-laws, friends, etc. It depends on how much and how far you will go for others, regardless of gender.
There’s nothing wrong with a deaf gal going for speech therapy and working hard at listening so that she can interact better with her BF/husband, because by doing so, she can communicate better with others too. Again for a gal that learns sign-language for her deaf BF/husband, nothing wrong with that if the BF/husband is most comfortable using sign language for daily living. It really depends on what’s practical, if you ask me. It’s like inter-racial marriages. If you marry a Japanese, will you learn Japanese, or should she learn English/Mandarin/dialects? If you live largely in a Japanese-speaking environment, I think it will make sense for you to learn Japanese; on the other hand, if you both live in Singapore, then she’s better off learning English and Mandarin. Rightos?
Men are NOT pigs
Comment by Thomas — October 11, 2006 @ 11:14 am
That’s a generalisation, true.
From personal observation and second hand accounts (through the media), it does seem that women are the ones who tend to sacrifice more for love.
It’s not solely about practicality. In this case, what I see is that the writer is saying for deaf women who sign, they tend to use it as their ‘first language’ ie. the classic case of the deaf person who has poor speech, grew up in deaf schools and uses sign language as primary means of communication. So in such cases, it’s much more difficult for the woman to pick up speech and learn to hear/listen again. In contrast, it’s much easier for a hearing person to pick up sign language.
I also think it’s true (though I can’t present any positive evidence) that hearing women will be more willing to pick up sign for their deaf siginificant others than hearing men. :P
Comment by Dictatorial Editor — October 13, 2006 @ 11:56 pm
My friend, the first scenario that you painted is about practicality. If someone has poor speech foundation and ability, and signing is the only recourse, then using sign language is THE practical option to begin with. If the men who claim to love them are unwilling to learn sign language for them, then these are the quacks. Don’t trust them with love. If they can’t make an effort to communicate better with someone they claim to love, then I say, “Next!”. Don’t waste time with these false Romeos or Princes Charming (no pun really intended :D)
Have a great week ahead and keep up your interesting blog :)
Comment by Thomas Tan — October 16, 2006 @ 7:51 am